Social distancing is the way of the world right now. While there are many challenges that the COVID-19 pandemic has presented to the public, social distancing can put some people at higher risk – including both reformed offenders and victims of domestic violence.
If you are feeling the pressure of social distancing that’s understandable. Fortunately, there are some very simple ways you can exert control over the situation you’re in that won’t lead to reoffending and possible jail time for domestic violence. Here are some suggestions to help:
Coloradans: Do You Know Your Triggers?
If you’ve been convicted of domestic violence in the past, then it’s likely that you’ve identified some of your triggers. During these uncertain times, it’s not a bad idea to revisit what your triggers are so you can develop strategies to cope with the extra stress this unprecedented situation has brought about.
Some of the most common triggers for domestic violence that may be an issue during this COVID-19 pandemic include:
- Periods of unemployment
- Financial issues
- Problems at work
And if you’re at home with your family, then additional common triggers to be aware of include:
- Disagreements with a partner
- Anger escalation
- Envy or jealousy
- Humiliation from perceived failures
- Fear or anxiety when someone threatens to leave
How People in Colorado Can Maintain Control of Their Anger
While getting upset or angry is bound to happen, there are tips that can help you keep your emotions under control such as:
- Take a break – When anger first surfaces, it’s important to step away from the situation before you explode. Remove yourself and focus on your breathing in order to gain control.
- Understand the anger – Anger and rationality don’t tend to occur at the same time, so take conscious steps to think about your anger and understand it. Why do you feel angry or upset? Is the situation worth getting upset and angry over? Also, take this opportunity to think about whether you should address the situation or just let it drop.
- Write it down – Sometimes it can be helpful to journal or set up a document on your computer that allows you to vent your frustrations. Write down your feelings and what you think. Understand that this is for your eyes only. This can help you to calm down and decide with a clear head how to move forward.
Take Advantage of Resources in Colorado
Just because most businesses are closed doesn’t mean there are no resources available for former domestic violence offenders. There are online support groups you can join, education can you take advantage of, and support from mental health professionals available. Relapse prevention, anger management, behavioral therapy, and education are all available by phone or online.
Think About the Consequences of a Colorado DV Conviction
Remember that domestic violence charges often don’t stand alone. It’s not uncommon to see domestic violence charges paired with:
- False imprisonment
- Restraining order violations
- Probation violations
If arrested and found guilty of domestic violence, you could face mandatory counseling and treatment, protection orders that limit contact with the victim, and probation. Another conviction can also have an impact on your parental rights, employment, and even your ability to do something such as getting a loan.
Plus, enhanced sentencing could be included if you’ve been convicted of domestic violence charges before. Consider the possible legal consequences of losing your cool and be proactive in order not to re-offend.
About the Author:
Andrew Bryant is a well-respected Colorado Springs criminal attorney who has been practicing in the area for years. A Colorado native, he returned to the home he loves after graduating from the University of Kentucky College of Law. Now, he uses the knowledge he gained as an El Paso County District Attorney to fight tirelessly for his clients’ rights. He is AV-Preeminent rated, has been recognized for his work by The National Trial Lawyers, and has been named to Best of the Springs lists by The Gazette for years.